Sehar Hayat, a popular Pakistani digital creator with millions of followers, and Sami Rasheed, a well-known personality, were once seen as one of the cutest couples on social media. Their pictures and videos looked full of love, happiness, and romance. People admired them and even idealized their relationship.

But behind that perfect image, the reality was very different. When their issues started coming forward, people were shocked. The same couple who looked so cute, so loving, suddenly became a story of separation. No one expected this ending.

According to Sehar, she asked for basic rights a separate home, emotional support, respect, and financial responsibility for their child. But she claims she faced emotional pain and disrespect instead.

Seher said that he used to say very bad things to me and my family, used abusive language, and even told me that he would get me a separate house on one condition — that I keep his toe in my mouth for 20 minutes. And I even agreed to this.

Whereas Sami says that the reason for our divorce was that on Airah’s birthday, I called my parents onto the stage for the cake cutting, and Sehr did not like that.

This is where the reality of our society appears.

In Pakistan, and in most Eastern cultures, marriage often becomes a journey of compromise for women. No matter how strong or independent she is, she is expected to adjust. Even a child belongs to both parents, yet the responsibility falls more on the mother. Financial responsibility is considered a man’s duty, but many fail to fulfill it completely.

A woman enters marriage with countless dreams. She trusts, she hopes, she imagines a peaceful and loving future. But when she is ignored, disrespected, or emotionally hurt, something inside her breaks.

And then comes the hardest decision divorce.

But even after divorce, society does not let her live peacefully. Instead of support, she faces judgment. People call it wrong, tell her she should have compromised for her child.

This is the reality.

Even when a woman asks for her rights, it means those rights were never being given.

Sami Rasheed was already a known personality, visible to thousands of people on social media. Yet, these issues continued. Later, his statement suggested the conflict started from a small issue and even then, many people supported him.

 Men are somewhere given the benefit if doubt even when the situation is against him or uncleared.

However, expectations in marriage from women are different in our society and most of the women when denied from them, got a label of “Divorce”.

Credit: Independent News Pakistan (INP)